This is one of my favorite things to begin the New Year with. There is no stress, no pressure, you don’t have to lose 10 pounds, give up your favorite splurge or even eat more kale, much to my husband’s delight. This New-New Year Ritual is the opposite of making New Year Resolutions. Resolutions usually involve giving something up or denying yourself of something you really, really like, and then they are gone almost as fast as the holiday cookies.
Discovering your word or phrase for the year is about bringing something new into your life. It can be a new way of being in your body, a fresh perspective on creating or even a new path to follow. Even when I make resolutions, I keep them in the positive. One year my resolution was to drink more water, another year it was to use more Titanium White in my paintings. These are two things I am still doing and enjoying years later.
Last year I shared a story about when I began this practice. You can see the post on the blog. This year I want to focus on the many unexpected rewards I have found following this practice. About twenty-five years ago I decided that my “picker” was broken and I needed to fix it. My “picker” was my ability to select appropriate love interests. I had been single for several years and was ready to find my mate. I had gotten over my bad boy phase and really wanted a soul partner for life. Yet, I kept finding ones that weren’t interested in me if I liked them or the reverse. The timing always seemed off. I began using my word for the year process to gain clarity around what my partner and relationship would look like. Oh yes, and I stopped dating completely for three years until I could fix the problem. A bit extreme but I was busy going to school as a returning student and working full time.
During the three-year hiatus I began to pay attention to what I found attractive in a person. I looked at people that had successful relationships. I learned to honor myself and to see how my own behaviors affected the choices I made. The Word for the Year process helped me to let go of thoughts and beliefs that no longer served me. I learned to love myself. Then it happened. Once I knew myself well enough to really let go of what wasn’t mine, work on the issues that were, and learn to honor me, I could allow myself to be loved. I met my future husband and the timing was perfect. I am so thankful that the Universe didn’t grant me the old wishes. Everything in perfect timing! This relates back to the post on The Best Gifts Come in the Strangest Packages.
Here is the process to discover your word or phrase for the year. The process is life changing, meaningful and as you share it with others you are becoming the change you desire.
Here are 10 steps for finding your word or phrase for the year:
1. This is a perfect time to begin a new journal as we begin 2020. I love to have one for each year and it can be as simple as a lined school notebook, but we are creatives so I know you will make a beautiful one for yourself. I use these simple notebooks but I glue mixed media paper to the cover and paint on that.
2. Begin the process by writing down the answers to these questions:
What are you most excited about for